SYSTEM MIRACLES FROM HARRISON'S METHODS AT HOME?
(The following are a few of the seeming miracles made possible by using System methods at HOME. Click on http://hometown.aol.com/ALLANHARRI/index.html to see a basic and very limited version of System methods.)
Only a few examples with very skimpy details can be offered on this web site. However, if you need realism, Harrison's books truly portray problems and solutions as they actually occurred inside classrooms or HOUSEHOLDS.
1.
Problem: Mrs Mary S., with 4
children, was a single mother who desperately needed self-reliant children.
The kids ages were 14, 12, 10, and 7. With her small paycheck it was impossible
to hire a sitter and still pay bills. She lived in a rundown
neighborhood when she discovered the Harrison System. Her family had
had numerous run-ins with the law.
Solution: After starting
System methods, things gradually improved. It was difficult, at first, for
the children to accept self accountability. Previously, under management
methods, the kids were accustomed to defying authority when they couldn't
"bamboozle" it. Upon discovering that each child was truly self accountable,
inside the household, and must pay for their own mistakes, the children began
asking for advice from mother, whenever the solution to a problem wasn't
clear.
This delighted Mrs. S. She began giving more and
more self responsibility to her older children who accepted and used it with
an almost grown-up attitude. Her oldest son assumed full responsibility for
the family while mother worked. The younger children, witnessing the
privileges enjoyed by the older youngsters, begged for similar opportunities.
Soon, many problems for Mrs. S. disappeared. Gangs, drugs, peer influence,
and such worries became things of the past. When asked by other parents why
she liked the System, this was her reply: "Why do I like it! It eliminates
work and my guilt! As a single mother, I have to have self-reliant kids
- and now I have them."
2. Problem: Mr.
& Mrs. B. became perfect examples of why opposites attract and yet often
lead to explosions. Mrs. B. was a permissive parent while her husband
was an authoritarian parent and sometimes abusive. Their 5 kids understood
this and (as kids will) used it at every opportunity to stir things up in
the family. Nevertheless, no child in the B. household liked the situation
as it existed. However this didn't stop each youngster from pitting one parent
against the other as an expedient way to achieve what he or she wanted at
the moment. One day Mrs B. discovered the System.
Solution: After using
the System for 6 months, both parents made the following statement: "The
System makes parents consistent. The kids insist!" But this declaration
doesn't do justice to a proper description of what actually happened.
Things had gotten so bad between the parents that divorce
was considered. After starting the Program, the first miracle appeared in
the form of the "Family Council!" Father B. quickly discovered that he
could no longer be the sole authority in the family. Mother B. had equal
voting rights at Council meetings. Together, he and his wife, had sufficient
votes for control. However, he needed either his wife's vote or a sufficient
number of the youngsters' voting in his favor to enact the "Household Rules"
he desired. This often was not easy to do unless he modified his proposal
to conform with the opinions of other family members. Actually, it developed
into a perfect training program to improve Father B.'s personality not
only at home but also at work. He soon received a promotion on the job
where he might not have even been considered before.
The second miracle appeared in the form of the "Justice
Program." Father B could no longer be the tyrant or abusive as he
was before. After a number of lost "Lawsuits," the father began to mend his
autocratic ways and learned to settle disputes in "Court" or else to use
the "Laws" enacted for the purpose by the Council. At the same time, the
children quickly learned they could no longer pit one parent against the
other. Moreover, they now had nothing to fear from father. The Law was the
Law! Disobedience brought either a reward or a penalty in Points. Also,
Mother now began to stand up for her rights as she never had before. Nobody
even talked about divorce ever again.
3. Problem: Mr. &
Mrs Q. were having a difficult time making ends meet. The father was a janitor
with numerous part-time jobs and his wife was a stay-at-home mother with
9 kids born about a year apart. The oldest child was a boy 17 years old and
still living at home. The couple were fortunate in having the next 4 oldest
children as boys who were employed in various capacities after school on
a part-time basis. Nevertheless, feeding, clothing, and housing, such
a large family was straining father's time and income beyond belief
to say nothing about mother's frantic efforts at trying to manage such a
large household, even as a stay-at-home mother.
Solution: Mr. & Mrs.
Q. made the following statement after using the System for about 7 months:
"It creates kids who want to help financially at home as they get older.
The System is a real necessity at our house."
The reason for such a statement lies with the logic
involved for large families using the Harrison System . The "Q" Family
Council is composed of 11 people. Father, mother, and 9 children. Father
and mother have 4 Council votes each for a total of 8 votes. Each of the
older five children have 1 vote each for a total of 5 votes. The remaining
4 children had 3/4 of a vote to 1/4 of a vote each. Thus, the parents could
still control the family when they combined their votes or received voting
support from some of the children. This welded the family together as nothing
else could. Moreover, it eliminated much of mother's work and stress trying
to control so many children. Every child knew that the System pitted each
lawbreaker against the whole Family Council rather than just
Mother. So, there was no argument possible against this.
Actually, the Family Council and the voting power it
provides are miracles which can be stated very succinctly by a quote from
another father and mother. Mr. & Mrs. R. with 5 kids say this: "We love
the way voting power is divided at Council Meetings. Parents have control
until children can exercise proper decisions. Yet, the children feel included
in the decision making. They can air their opinions with a partial vote,
depending upon their age and ability." The next problem
for the Q family called for a System financial solution acceptable
to everyone in the family.
The Q's family's Council decided that their Budget
for the month would come to $2400 cash. Based upon a 10 to 1 ratio, 24,000
points would be available for the home's self accountability program. With
11 people in the household, each person's "Fair Share" for contribution
purposes must be either $218 cash or 2182 points (divide $2400 or 24,000
points by eleven). The points were earned by doing chores for the whole
household or by accommodating members with points to spend, as described
below.
Mr. & Mrs Q, together, contributed $436 cash and
received 4360 pts. to pay their children for doing personal things for them
(e.g. shining their shoes, cleaning up after a mess which was made by them,
etc.). The oldest boy added $200 cash from his grocery store job to the needed
cash required for the month. He therefore received 2000 points and was required
to earn only 182 points more doing chores for the family. The next oldest
boy offered $100 cash from his shoe store clerking job. So he received 1000
points and needed to earn 1182 more. The next oldest two boys provided $50
each from their paper route money (making a total of $100
cash contribution) and received 500 points each. Each boy needed to
earn 1682 more points each doing household chores. The next oldest boy could
offer only $25 cash and received 250 points. He then had to earn 1932
more points. The remaining four children had to earn their full 2182 points
doing chores around the house. As the kids aged, more cash could be contributed
and voting power added. Naturally, the parents also furnished the other $1539
in cash needed to operate the household for a month. However they received
more than their money's worth from their children who now eagerly did chores
around the home. At the end of a month (or 2 - 6 months as desired) everyone
started over (but remember, this isn't the way life is and should be so explained
to the children). Thus, lessons learned prevented similar mistakes and any
"huge"accumulation of points.
4. Problem &
Solution: Trudy D. with 3 kids says
this: "In the beginning, I thought offering material rewards to be
wrong since some child experts said it was. Now I realize that these so-called
experts were mistaken. Before, without a valuable scorekeeper for self
accountability, I HAD to manage the kids. The more I managed the more
they seemed to need it. My stress and work multiplied. Now I seem to have
time for everything without any stress, It's wonderful! We keep these precepts
before us: Earned rewards, yes! Bribes, no! And, fines for neglected work!"
5. Problem: Ray N. with
one child was worried because he felt the public schools were not teaching
his son proper skills and attitudes to survive in the business world. He
examined private school after private school and found no improvement there.
Finally he came across the Harrison System for home use.
Solution: Ray, being
a single (divorced) parents, started the System at home. He was delighted
with all of its business aspects. He made the following statement about the
System: "Teaches kids complexity of monetary and business transactions.
It obviously builds future entrepreneurs and leaders."
System businesses in the home are varied and create miniature
capitalists. The children can buy at auction and operate the "Household Baking
Company," the "Coupon Clipping Company" (reduces household costs), "Household
Mechanic Company," and many more just as interesting.
6. Problem &
Solution: Mr. & Mrs. O. with 2 kids sum
up the System best: "Creates loving, caring, and trusting children
who treat money only as a scorekeeper and a means of achieving self
accountability. It builds a conscience the best way of all, through
experience rather than talk. People should know that no one can beat
or lecture a conscience into a kid."
7. Problem &
Solution: In conclusion, probably
Mr. & Mrs. Q. describe the System the most accurately: "The System
distinguishes between what is the child's duty and what isn't.
Non-performed duties bring a fine. Properly performed work earns
a reward. A civic duty involves no reward and teaches the required lesson.
No reward other than a smile or praise teaches slavery. All System
kids know the difference between charity and forced or guilt giving."
A WORD OF WARNING: Don't let the complexity of the Harrison System turn your family off from using it. Start with the basic program and add things as needed or wanted. Merely look at life as we adults should live it for solutions to problems in the home.